worthwhile human being, and placing it under ongoing attack.
When it comes to negotiating life’s uncertainties, even the
non-depressed mind finds this a big deal. At best, the non-
depressed mind manages to accept uncertainty or simply
avoid it. The depressed mind has no such luxury of choice.
It does, however, have a dire need for certainty, and what tops
the list, is the dire need to know for sure that this depression
will most definitely and absolutely come to an end.
Knowledge of your condition, because it is a condition, will also help.
Being able to differentiate the symptoms of your illness from what you
may believe is the new ‘you’ can be invaluable. It may just give you
the chance of some small measure of perspective on your current
predicament, and help at the very least to keep the memory of the
old ‘you’ alive until the time arrives for it to make a comeback.
No discussion of depression would be complete without
reference to anxiety. Just in case dealing with depression were
not hard enough, it is common to feel highly anxious at the
same time, and the two together make quite some pair.
By far and away the most helpful stance to adopt when dealing
with anxiety is to accept it without liking it. Whilst this may
sound simple, in practice it isn’t! It is generally understood that
anxiety will persist if it gets your attention. Therefore, when
anxious, focusing on trying to rid yourself of the highly unpleasant
symptoms, will paradoxically perpetuate the problem. In other
words, resist it and it will persist all the more. If, however, you can
do your best to accept it without liking it, it will in time, behave
just like the Duracell bunny and gradually wear itself out.
And if you remember a single piece of information when it
comes to anxiety, remember this: whilst anxiety may be highly
undesirable, whilst it may be highly uncomfortable and may help
you to imagine all sorts of possible future catastrophes, it will reach
its peak and come down. Admittedly this will be very difficult to
remember when highly anxious, but it’s worth the effort. If you